I have read the boards for over a year and signed up in Nov07. I am still not sure how to create a thread but I posted a few things under newcomers when I signed up. I feel like my relationship is all one sided and I am more insecure than I ever have been. My SO has been in MLC for almost 4 years. I believe he is in the final stages, which IMHO is the hardest. Back in Nov he started taking very small steps towards me and I don't know if I did something wrong or what but he backed off and then would come towards me again. For example he got me a very nice Christmas present but yet on New Years Eve he pouted the whole night. It was just the two of us but I managed to have fun while watching him pout the whole night. It was very hard but the next day I was proud of myself that I handled it so well. He has now gone back to not calling me at all when a few months ago he was starting to call me once in a while. I don't call him except to tell him I am on my way home. When I do call all I say is I am on my way and nothing else. I probably shouldn't even do that but it is something I want to do. He is back to very hot and cold again. We live in the same house, which I think is harder when you want to be close to them. The reason I feel like giving up is because I don't know if all of this is worth it and feel like I am getting no where. I have done a 180, gone dark and am still working on GAL. Does anyone know how long this back and forth goes or anything else I can do?
