I really like SD's advice about putting M/R focus on hold for a month. Especially if she has lot of studying to do this coming month. take the time to focus on you and the kids. It'll be really good for you.
I feel I've done too much of this already! I avoided W like the plague and focused on the kids from September thru' December. Maybe that helped cool her off too along with some validation which wasn't M/R related. I have not brought up M/R with W for at least 3 months now and do not intend to for as long as needed. Don't know how SD concluded that; maybe I haven't emphasized this enough. The focus will continue on me and the kids but I feel I have to tweak it a bit now; W's got to feel she's loosing her grip and that I'm not beholden to her. Maybe even take off my ring. See Lan's comment on my previous thread.
Originally Posted By: ann25
Don't know where your kids are at in the grand scheme (do they think mommey and daddy might work it out? Do they think daddy will come back home?)
The kids seem happy to go from "mom's house" to "dad's house"; they don't understand the big picture. If anything mom would have to come home. But note well my last sentence. I wouldn't do anything "I" wouldn't approve of and my standards are pretty high. And, yes, Kalni I need to take a "risk" and the kids are indeed still the fibre optic network to W whether we like it or not. There is a distinction between "dating" and "socializing" in my mind and I think the kids can pick up on this esp. D11. We do not visit each others houses or meet at social events so the communication channels are very narrow.
Hope I'm making myself clear this time before the next bit of advice comes in ;-)
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
