Piecing? Sexual issues? hmm...not sure

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Hi Mom of 2 - Wow - sounds like things have been tricky for you both. I know all about the not desiring your H. In my case it wasn't always like that, but there was definatly no instant chemistry, so i get that. I don't get the multiple affairs, I had one and it has devistated me, but then again, i haven't always felt this way, so who knows.

You situation seems hard, but you do have one advantage that most do not. Because your H posts on this site, you have a very unique look at his thoughts and feelings. If you read what he's posted and really consider his side, the way he feels and has been feeling, you can probably make some amazing changes that will greatly benefit your M.

In my opinion, you are lucky that H wants to keep trying with you. I feel lucky that mine wanted to with me. One thing that I have learned from this site is that i would give anything to have my own H care half as much as the guys here.... that being said, you really need to make sure that being in this M is what you want. I know that you are here and have said you want to give it another shot, but you aren't coming across as really sure about that.

I haven't seen or talked to OG since the last big blow up - 3 or 4 weeks now. I miss OG terribly, but have made a promise that I would not contact him ever again. Yet I don't know what to do about my lack of attraction to my H.

This is good. OG is like an addiction. He made you feel things that you had been missing and made you feel good. I can't say that you were or weren't in love with him, but ending it is really best. You have made an investment with your family.

Something that I've done that has seemed to help a little...
I've decided that my goal as a W is to make H feel good, make him happy. My being intimate with him makes him feel that. So for me, it's not about passion and desire, it's about loving my H the way he needs to be loved.

Not really sure what advice to give you as there is probably a whole lot more to the story than what's here... Just the one thing - Read what he has posted here. Not only on his thread, but to others as will, it's like a look into his heart and mind, priceless.

Take care!