I could say, "We better have sex by mm/dd/2008 or I'm out of here!" Is that conducive to rekindling a sex life? Has that worked for anyone?
Take out the date part and yes, it has worked for me. But it might not have. My H made the choice to make the sex issue important to him...because we're worth it I guess. I think it is still fear that keeps people stuck in these SSM. Fear of the other person basically saying, you're not worth it. So they stay stuck, the M stays "as is". I guess you are at least being honest with her in your words. That is good. But she will sense if you are talking out your azz or not. It's been 10 years of no sex. Lots of people would not be able to go that long in a M without hitting the wall. I know I wouldn't. So I dunno.... I still think she is not going to believe you since you've already put up with it this long. She needs to see you mean action. I don't know what that means for you and your M. In my M, it basically meant I was one foot out the door and he saw it...because I told him....and meant it. That's all I can say. Only say it if you Really mean it.
