Looks like you've gotten some wonderful advice and support !
I think you could really do a 180 by having erased the list, and trying NOT to depend on your H for anything any longer !
Most things you will be able to do yourself !
I do it all the time now. At first I would do things in TEARS, thinking how UNFAIR life was to me, how UNFAIR it was that I was now doing everything alone ! Life gave me a real SHOCK to say the least.
VERY VERY SLOWLY, I have started learning to depend on myself and no longer on H. To be honest, right now I don't need him anymore (except to pay the bills yikes) but what I'm trying to say is...life was good before we married, and it can be good now, whilst we stand. (I am assuming that you are standing...)
Please listen to the great posters that came over and yes, do some changes in your approach, I have a feeling it may just jerk him into thinking about stuff !
Take care sweety !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
