Thank you for the feedback. I don't know, I quickly pondered that response but then thought better of using it in front of D15. While the kids know something is "up" with Mom over the last 6 months, they don't know how tenuous our R is right now, and I don't want to burden them with this for one moment before I have to. She is clearly only doing this in front of the kids - not for example before we go to sleep when it is just us. I don't know if she is doing it to show her power over me, or to protect the kids - perhaps both. I thought about saying something to her privately, but have no idea how that conversation would go. Again, I'm trying DR techniques to avoid initiating conversations about the R right now.
