I just want to make it better. . .

[not an ex yet]

Seek,
My H has said some of the exact same things you are hearing. I feel the same way as you about it being fixable...no major issues other than some annoying nagging on my part and frustrations that neither of us had addressed.

My H also brought up the getting back together after D. To me, if that is even on the forefront of their minds, then why D? It doesn't make sense, other than to give me (us) something to keep from letting go.

Anyway, the reason I mention the similarities, is b/c that sort of makes me feel better and gives me hope that this is all part of the process they have to go through. How can so many of them leave with the exact same thoughts and "scripts"?

I am having some of the exact same thoughts as you and could have written some of your posts myself. So all I can say is hang in there, it's not over. We just have to keep praying for patience to get through this.