LS, you probably don't have time to read, do you? Books I'd suggest are Five Love Languages (Chapman) and Michele's A Woman's Guide to Changing her Man: without his even knowing it. Maybe you could keep a book with you so that whenever you have a few minutes, you could read a bit.
One message from the books is to figure out what your partner needs (this will not necessarily be the same thing you need in any area) and give it to him. Yes, you'll be doing all the work, putting out all the effort, etc. - sometimes that's just the way it is, and if your goal is to repair your M, you can't insist that everything has to be 'fair' right now.
