Hey fb2 - i've only had a few moments in the last few days, so i haven't had a whole lot of time to post.
Sounds like you are doing pretty good. I really like SD's advice about putting M/R focus on hold for a month. Especially if she has lot of studying to do this coming month. take the time to focus on you and the kids. It'll be really good for you.
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After digesting a lot of free advice I believe the most poignant new objective now is to show W I have "moved on" in an emotional sense even if I have to fake it. I'm thinking of healthy, non-destructive ways to do this e.g., redecorate the house, socialize esp. with the opposite sex and with the kids present so they can report back immediately to headquarters. Affairs, casual sex and so on that I've read about on this board do not qualify in my book - this will only make matters worse; I have to remain a knight in shinning armor to all concerned esp. to myself.
That bold part concerns me a bit... Focus on you. we both know that she's going to drill the kids, but i would think about the message that you are sending them. Are you showing them what you want them to think. Kids are kids, they'll make up their own stuff, but just make sure you are ready to deal with the aftermath of that... Don't know where your kids are at in the grand scheme (do they think mommey and daddy might work it out? Do they think daddy will come back home?) Just make sure you aren't confusing them anymore than they already are... You may have this totally under control, but i don't know all the details and that was the first thing i thought when i read this!
Take care!
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
