Thanks, Hairdog. I really appreciate it. Your post also made a lightbulb go off in my head.
I think what is hanging me up (well ONE of the things) is the use of LD and HD here on the board. Others have been voicing their concerns about this as well.
I'm basically in limbo. I don't fit the negative LD woman that Hairdog described, but I'm not "HD" either. At this point, cac still desires sex more than I do and so he is the "HD" partner by MWD's definition, right? (There are reasons for the discrepancy but I won't get into that.)
Maybe that's part of the reason I feel that I don't fit. I don't know what it's like to be the HD partner because I never have been, so even though I'm "one of you" because I'm also working on improving my sitch, I can never be "one of you" in the HD, sex-starved sense. I can empathize but it's not the same.
Anyway, my first impulse, last year, was to assume that people thought what I wrote was stupid. I know, I know, but that's what I thought. More recently I have been entertaining the idea that maybe they're not saying anything to me because they agree with me, or at least understand what I'm saying. NO!!! Could it be? That's a novel idea for me, and one that I probably wouldn't be entertaining if not for my Individual Counseling (not to be confused with IC the poster).
