Sorry to dampen the fire which burns within you, but the question you poses is a bit like your previous idea to ask your W to to show OM the DR book. It's best left alone while you focus on yourself. When W is ready to finish with OM she'll do so in her own time.
On the other hand you could set your boundary and tell W if she keeps contact with OM it would seriously affect your relationship with her, and see where that gets you. (more likely to push her closer to him).
IMHO, you're thinking too far ahead, concentrate on the immediate you and keep W looking in your direction.
