I have been reading these posts for a while now and I am in need of some advice/help.
H and I have been married for 7 years now and have a D6 together. We seperated over 2 years ago for a while and ended up getting back together.
Things had been going real well ever since until a couple of months ago. I started to suspect H was having an A. After a little while I comfronted him on it. Of course.....he denied it. I started to dig on my own and we had gone to a C friend of ours and H finally admitted to have been having one for 4 months.
He would not tell me who it was. We fought pretty hard about it for a week or so and then I found out.....it was MY best friend! I have known this person for 12 years....been through hell and back with her.
The A came out because she told her H who then told me(she knew he was going to tell me). So anyway her and I have gone over this A time and again and she is trying to work on her M all the while wanting to keep the friendship she and I had.
It ended up that H claimed to have had feelings for her and that they had planned on possibly being together. Well obviously that did not happen because she doesn't want out of her M.
I told H we were through the day I found out. It stayed that way for a couple weeks and then we started talking and he wanted me to give him another chance. Part of me feels that I am just his "Plan B" but then part of me feels he is being sincere. He is doing everything he can to show me that he loves me and wants to be with me and work on our M.
The problem is....I am having a hard time in letting it go. I was bringing it up often. At first H was ok with me bringing it up and has no problem talking about it but now he is tired of hearing about it and having it brought up. I haven't brought it up in the last couple days but it is hard not to.
I have checked phone records and all kinds of other things and I know they are not talking to each other anymore. And I also talk to her H regularly. But I can't help wondering everytime his phone rings....he is a couple minutes late getting home.....etc.
