MrsCac - I find your posts to be very valuable. I save certain posts, or parts of posts, that resonate with me. Over the years, I've saved them in different formats - WordPerfect file, emails to myself, and lately, I've been using Google Notebooks. Sometimes I save the poster's name, sometimes not. Many of your posts are in there.
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I find his sarcastic posts that slam LD women a little tough to take.
Aha! I just figured this out! When I "slam LD women," I am actually slamming "LD women who make no effort to resolve the imbalance, or who actively insult their spouse's point of view." I don't consider you one of these people. I actually consider you one of "us." "We" are the people who have come here to put in the work to save our marriages.
My frustration is with the partner who doesn't want to put the work in to save the marriage, who isn't willing to look inward and examine their own contribution to the problem. I slam the LDs because that's my context. I would also slam HDs who blindly think it's the LDs fault that their life sucks (e.g. cemar, but I just ignore him at this point), or LD husbands who don't give a damn (annette's H or Lil's bf). See? I slam all who deserve slamming. I am an equal opportunity slammer. I wasn't slamming you. I was actually including you in my little joke of a post to Ingrid because you're one of "us."
Maybe I should have used a little winking smilie...but I try to avoid those things.
Wow, I just realized something. Something that I'm rarely accused of: I was too subtle!
Now...let's get back to slamming the people who need to be slammed: those who don't put the into keeping a marriage healthy.
