Karen, you are right. I shouldn't fight with my H when he's drinking. We were in the car on Sat. night and afer him having gotten nasty with me twice before, I couldn't stop myself. I let it fly. I'd love to see H go to AA. I don't see that happening, as he's never thought he had a problem.
I know that's easier said than done though! I try not to fight with my H, but sometimes do anyway, alcoholics even sober ones like my H really know how to push your buttons! But at least you know when they are drinking you shouldn't take seriously what they are saying. That's sad he is in denial about having a problem, because it seems pretty obvious from what you say that he has one, but I guess he hasn't "hit bottom" yet which I know is what they say has to happen before someone usually winds up at AA. I do hope someday soon he realizes he is hurting you and your family with his drinking!!! Karen43
