Mrs. cac, your posts are great and I think a lot of us "get" you. Don't get swept up in a negative tailspin, please. You express your pov very well, with a lot of self-awareness and understanding. Was it just hairdog's comment that pi$$ed you off? Bear in mind where he's coming from... a pretty bad spot. You're my soulmate (there's the "S" word)-- you can't go anywhere!