Personally, I want to be able to tell my boys that I a)stood up for my marriage and did what I could to save it. b)I honored my vows, even after seperation and while the D progressed through court.
I'm a little late on responding to this one, but I just had to. The other night during a heated exchange (H was drunk), H said....She (D3) will know the truth!! As if to tell me that she'll know the mistakes her mom made in the M and that it was mom's fault it fell apart. My response.....Yes, she will know the truth! Not that I want to expose my child to that, but I was angry that he is the one in the A, yet had the nerve to want to tell our child that I was the one entirely to blame!
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The problem is that any relationship started when you are still married, or in the midst of divorce (and still broken and full of baggage), isn't based on anything substantial. It's just ego building and a bandaid. People using each other. For example, what kind of emotionally healthy person want's someone in the midst of a divorce and all the emotional upheaval that occurs during one? It just isn't a good way to create anything real or substantial.... and it isn't right to use people.
ROOT- HOW TRUE! I know my H and the OW feel that they are in love and I know that there are rare cases where the relationship does last. However, they have NO idea what real life will be like together right now. NO IDEA.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
