Hi Ingrid - I'm a solution seeker myself, which is why I came here. Despite my H's periodic verbal abuse (trust me, if it were constant I would be gone), he's a good person and I want our M to last.
Our place is too small to move anyone in with us. My sister has months, at most. My mother is resistant at this point to a care facility, and as long as she is taking relatively good care of herself with the help of some caretakers who drop in every other day, I feel she would become worse if we move her from her familiar surroundings.
By 8pm, my energy is gone, and my H's isn't far behind since he's usually up at 4:30. Yet, our lack of sex is all my fault. Of course. It would be wonderful if it were an outlet for me for all of my stress - instead it is just one more pressure.
Still, I muddle on in search for of my elusive libido.
