Okay Dom - you tell me who gets the short stick? My terminally ill sister? Or perhaps my 80 year old mother suffering from alzheimers? Both are on their own. Then there is my toddler, who I see a couple hours a day during the weekend and schlepp around on the weekend to visit her sick aunt and grandmother. Don't forget about my full time stressful job, which pays 3x my husband's job so he doens't want me to quit. Please throw in that my H is gone 12-14 hours a day during the week because of his job. On the weekend, he's busy flying or hunting or golfing. You think there is time to have sex 4 times a week? Who should I toss out the window?