Another new topic! already? Here we go

[cat03]

She's gained a lot of weight and is very self conscious about it.
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I think, I think I found the answer. She prob thinks you don't really mean it and are just humoring her. I for one would LOVE all that stuff you are saying. Before my H left I was a bit overweight & didn't dress up, but my H made me feel during ML that I was hot stuff and I believed it--thus never saw anything wrong with my body.
While on the DB diet I lost weight, have grown my hair long (it turns out it is curly!) and i look 10x better than ever but my self image is still weak, why? because my H didn't complement me much since he came back.

So I'm thinking that since she has a bad image of herself she is not ready yet to believe you find her desirable, that she might feel you are mocking her even.
Perhaps start small, compliment her on a new dress she is wearing, how the color does this and that for her,etc. Not being with you for so long perhaps makes it too much for her at this point.

about C

.. I found it helpful, but feel she and I did most of the work ourselves (maybe that's the way it should be)

I also felt that way, but i think you are right, even the MC told my H that C was good and all, but that it was a small % of our piecing, that we got 1hr w/him, that it was up to him the rest of time to make things work

I still think my MC is not pushy enough, but I think this MC does agree more w/my H's demeanor (that's why we changed, the other MC, my fav, saw through him and told him like it was and H didn't like him anymore).

The old MC did tell me to calm down and showed me I can be abrasive, not so this guy, I'm the one who actually realizes on my own I need to turn the notch down a bit when I get emotional. So I guess it is a mix bag.