karen: I think it's great to feed your inner-monkey. If it were me, I'd focus less on my spouse's reactions, but I see how that's pretty unavoidable.
If it means anything, my touch of grace was also "devotion." This, of course, aroused my skepticism, so I had to start over and pick different stars. I'm convinced now that you would have chosen your hokiness journey no matter which star you clicked. None of them say "dump him/her".
