Trying to catch up here Frank. DB principles always apply frank, but, we walk on eggshells initially...we hold in our anger....we do everything to try and save the M.

But there ARE boundaries frank. They DO have to make choices. The people here have gone ABOVE AND BEYOND to try and save everything. After awhile frank, you have to say to yourself "I've kept my end of the bargain. I honored my vows."

What about YOUR happiness?

When was the last time you heard 'honey, I missed you today?'

or

'frank, lets sit down and see if together we can come up with a financial plan to get us out of this mess'?

When was the last time you heard the garage door opening or front door creak open and you said, 'ahhh..my wife is home'.

I am only able to repeat the ongoing recs: you need to stop focusing on the M; you need to do what YOU want/need to do; if you are thinking about what to do to affect her...or..focusing on the interactions between her and her divorced friends, then you are wasting your time.

Next time you feel this..go for a walk....get coffee and read...take your kids for ride/dinner/movie. Do something different. I agree that you need to take yourself away. Afterall, Frank, even michele says that the LRT means you must be willing to follow thru.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;