btw - I hate the words obligatory sex or pity sex.
You may not like those expressions, but they are in fact highly descriptive and accurate ones. If you check out the definitions of "obligatory" and "pity" (I happen to prefer "charity") you'll see that they pretty much fit the scene.
Originally Posted By: Light Seeker
A hj seems more palatable than a bj for some reason, but I probably won't want to be touched.
Let me give you my HD perspective on this one - the only thing I found more insulting than "charity" intercourse was the offer of a "charity" handjob. The message I got was "let me use my hand to get you off so we can get this sex thing off the table. Frankly, it's too much trouble for me to spread my legs".
Earlier in my marriage, I sometimes settled for charity HJ's, but at some point simply refused them. Most men are fully capable of getting that job done on their own. What HD men really want and need is something that they assumed was part of the deal when they got married, swore off other women, and signed over half of their balance sheet - namely, a warm and loving vagina.
Again, don't mean to sound harsh, but, from my perspective, getting the offer of a HJ as a substitute for real sex really pissed me off and drove me further from my spouse. Based on my experience, I'd suggest HD wives to steer clear of what their man may consider to be charity HJ's.
