I didn't mean literally to tell her. Goodness knows you have. I think it is sad how she blocks herself from participating in your M with a bunch of mumbo-jumbo smokescreen stuff. One minute it is about feminist issues, the next about your shortcomings and still the next about her view of M. At least my H is consistent "Oh but I Doooooooo find you attracive honey. I'm just too x,y,z to do anything about it. You can't just "do it" you know." His mantra is virtually identical every time - maybe even I should start to believe it.
