She's gone...I'm devastated, but hopeful

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Hi MM,
It's kind of encouraging that nothing dramatic happened either way. It also sounds familiar. My W was afraid things would slip back to the way they were. I'm afraid things will go back to the way they were.

Have you gone to any counseling, or MC for both of you? I ask because my W and I did. In the last or next to last session, I brought up this point, fear of returning to the way it was, and our C told us it won't happen, that we won't let it happen. We are now both aware and can take action to fix and change it.

Something I've noticed is that my life, my R, my W, may all seem 99% the same now as before, but the changes can be real and profound. The change is more internal than external.

Here's a thought. Do you think you or she could go a complete day without comunicating? I'm not saying you should, but it may be interesting.

It looks like your watchword now is patience, even more so than detach. So good luck, have patience