(((Hugs)))

As many have already said, you've described me 2 years ago. Even down to the concert. Why they even feel in necessary to tell you such things is beyond me.

Your children are being that, children. They see an opportunity to get away with things and are doing it. Some kids find it harder to process the severity of the situation. So lets see if we can find a way to get them under control? Mean what you say. Have consequences you follow through with. Check with the schools counselor? If able, perhaps some therapy for them? Trust me honey, there will come a day when things slow down for you.

Now off to those blasted medications. I can honestly say they probably saved my life. I was almost catatonic for the first year, I was put on Effexor 225 mg and 4 xanax a day. It stopped the night wonderings, it stopped the constant babble in my head, it stopped the crying at any given moment. Talk about no fun! I would be sitting at my desk at work and someone would tell me something sort of sad.......thats it! I cried for the rest of the day. I was sent home many many days because of this. I know am only taking the effexor 150 mg and 1 xanax a day cut in half.

HEY! All those things you THINK you cannot do around the house, guess what? YOU CAN!! Pretty soon you'll be so damn proud of yourself you'll be smiling! I remember when I used to cry over the stupid EASY PULL LAWNMOWER. I wanted to sue them for putting the words "EASY PULL" on it. Easy pull my ass. I was seriousl checking into getting a goat \:o but thought the neighbors would complain. Then oneday....I stepped on the back of that stupid lawnmower and pulled..........VROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM! I think I cried again. Tears of joy this time!!!

I am not going to lie to you and tell you this is going to be easy, it's not. Nothing worthwhile is. I know you know the drill. Read the DB'ing book and D Remedy and anything else you can get your hands on to try and understand whats going on inside his head. No snooping and no assuming. No whining and no complaining unless it is an emergency. Gads, the things I used to make up just to get my then H to come by the house I mean, I really don't think he gave a [censored] if the dog was running a fever or not.

You need to slow yourself down and breathe. Stop talking to the kids are start acting. Take control back of YOUR LIFE. Once you achieve this level things will slowly even out for you. As far as the meds, if you need them, take them. Have them put you on a low dose so it isn't so hard to get off them.

LOL My xhubby was always a procrastinator too. He still is. We still own our home and I see no signs of it going up for sale. Hmmmm.....it's the way he is, the way he has always been and the way he will always be. I've learned to accept it so it no longer frustrates me. I will usually just do it myself, this way I do not have to contact him so he can here me wine. They HATE that.

It's a long road HSS.....one I know you will be able to travel. Put your trust in God that he will guide you along your way. Watch for the signs. Remember, God cannot do everything for you, you have to help also.

We are all here for you when you need us!

Much hugs

Jeanette

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