She's ready to move on

[Michael Mc C]

Stealing a message left for me by Sara on Yoyo's "Playhouse" thread:

I was reading your sitch tonight. Looks like your wife is too comfortable with married life to really go it alone. there is a really good retrouvaille group in New Jersey, I'm not sure where, but Hopeforfuture went a couple of weeks ago and had a great outcome. He posted on LWB's last thread about it. You should look into it, http://www.helpourmarriage.org. It saved my marriage too.

Thanks Sara. I've spoken to HFF about this as well. I'm waiting for that "sign" from my wife indicating that she is ready to turn things around. I've mentioned Retro to her once before and it didn't go over well at all - she feels that I was trying to coerce her into a weekend of forced counseling...

I agree that her life is too good right now for her to go anywhere. Unfortunately, I think it's also too good for her to really consider fixing the marriage. She can sit on the fence and coast along.

We had a friendly discussion not too long ago regading self-esteem and she told me that she feels that she has a surplus of this. I hadn't thought of it at that time but in reality I feel she is really lacking in this department. She is stubborn and she is quick to make a decision but I think this is an attempt to show strength.

I've seen the way she speaks to people online and how she allows others to speak to her. She soaks up the attention like a shy highschooler - it makes me sad to have seen this display of low self respect/esteem.