The net effect of this is she can lie without impunity, such as claiming her EA is not adultery, and that she can unilaterally decide our marriage is null and void in her mind, and that's all the justification she needs. It also means she can lie about her whereabouts or give a fabricated reason she is late in contacting her children.
It also has meant that she can judge my sharing of facts and truths with my S7 (Mommy is leaving Daddy for OM) and claim it is harming her relationship with her children.
Man, is THAT ever SCRIPT. EXACT same experience here with my wife, last summer.