We are legally sep., and if H files, it will automatically go through. Same if I file. I don't know if I could do it yet, but he discussed the fact that it's been so long now and neither of us should continue living in this limbo state. (there was a lot that was said; I didn't post every part of the conversation; too lengthy).
He knows that I forgive him for the affair. I don't know if I could actually make the relationship work after all that he has done. I would like to see, just to be sure, but H is adamant that his mistakes will get in the way. I think he's actually speaking more for himself than for me.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
