W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing

[Lanzo]

Hi Kalni,

I'm on these boards 24/7. At the moment I'm just reading and commenting on others.

My sitch is moving along with lots of baby steps for which I am grateful.

Lots of things going through my mind which I wasn't particularly going to post on but here are some of them.

W and I seem to be piecing some kind of M back together, although neither of us have actually said that this is what we're doing. I personally would like to say something because we've had a marriage fail because of assumptions and mis communications. I want to say "are we piecing something back together or what ?" I want to make sure we are doing something positive rather than just going through the motions of living in the same house together.

Also I want some form of R talk to basically acknowledge what has gone on in the last 6 months. I'm not pushing for an apology or anything like that, I at least want to discuss what we can both do to prevent it happening again ( her running to OM). At the moment my "assumption" is that she feels I won't be able to forgive or respect her if she tells all or discusses the past.

I've narrowed R talk down to saying something like "There are some difficult subject which we're eventually going to have to discuss".

So lots of baby steps, things look positive, and we're moving forward slowly. I'm also thinking of when I should move from newcomers to the piecing section, but I can't do that until I know we're officially piecing.

Lan