She's gone...I'm devastated, but hopeful

[minkerman]

Well LN, you and I were both right. No real shifts yet except we talked about how we have both changed and become better people and a new marriage would be healthier than the one we left. She hinted that she's leaning that way but doesn't want to falsely lead me on until she knows for sure. She did tell me directly that her #1 fear is that if we get back together, we would slide back to the way we were. I asked her "what would be the incentive in that?" We have both become better, more honest people, and there is no reward for backsliding. We have seen the downside and it is not pretty. Anyway, a fairly neutral phone call, leaning toward positive. That's it for tonight.