I want to be with my W and would leave OW in 1 sec. if I thought things would change in my M.
Do you meant that?
If you do, you know what step one is. Until you do that, as Amy said, there's not much for it. Not many good marriages have three people in them
All you other details are just rationalization to make you feel good. What do you want?
Sorry if that all sounds harsh. You will find incredibly supportive people here. More than you can even imagine. But they won't lie to you, and they will tell you when you are wrong. If you really want your marriage, I think it can be saved. But you have to decide. You won't find a person here that thinks you are doing the right thing now.
