First of all Frank, I am sorry to see you move here. Secondly, I want to tell you how how helpful you were to me when I first arrived and for a long time after that. I know a lot of people think very highly of you.
You probably know the answers to eveything that you need to do. You've been here before. It's ALL ABOUT YOU and your KIDS right now. The problem is that in your situation, your W. is constantly THERE. I have had the opportunity to put 18 months of physical separation between me and her, waiting for the inevitable fall which will undoubtedly occur when I return, and the physical separation has been great for ME. I'm not really into what's good for HER right now. I have to survive, and get myself ready to do that.
I know a lot of women from my kids schools. I never text any of them! Does the guy's wife know he's texting your W? I think not.
Frank, as you know, WAWs do not think love and commitment are choices. They continue to chase the elusive "happy". You don't owe it to your wife to make her happy. She needs to feel happy in herself. As a friend of mine here said "That's an individual soldier task".
