ok I can go more into detail here cause I am really in need of serious help on this. During my M. I own a buisness but I seldom work late or bring work home it is a well off company with good managers I just oversee and collect dough no home probs. there. I took kids to school every day picked them up every day did all grocery shopping even at times took kids to doctor. I dont want to have a big head here but I felt like I was doing all while she sat there. If I tried to talk to her about things it allways got turned around on me. So I just started keeping it to myself let her know that I was unhappy and held it all in till I blew up. I wasnt looking for OW it just kinda happened. OW has just ended a D so we kinda have the alot to talk about thing going. As for the fellings for her I understand all about the new R thing. But I just feel so hopeless about my marriage right now she still even now wants to turn things around on me when I try to talk to her. I know I have faults, prolly a lot, I want to be with my W and would leave OW in 1 sec. if I thought things would change in my M. She wants us together and she loves me very much I know that and that makes this extreamly hard. But If she does change to start helping me some how long will it last? She and I have had serious probs b4 and talked it out, I mean she had an affair on me once that I suspect I still hold a grudge on but we worked through it, but now I just dont have the drive to try anymore and it kills me cause I love my kids and I still have feelings 4 her to a point. As for my 1st marriage that was just a disaster. that women turned into a bi sexual freak and was constantly cheating on me and I really had no other option but D cause she didnt care and she told me she didnt......