Hope,
You have gotten a lot of good advice here. He may be near the end of his journey but he still sounds depressed. The guilt is very hard for them to accept once they wake up and see the mess they caused. It is so obvious he is trying to push you away, it would be so much easier for him, to avoid the pain he caused.

Take care of yourself. He has a lot of soul searching to do.

Wed2alien

wed2alien

Both 49, M 23 years
3 teens
April 2004- bomb, moved out
April 2006-Ended with OW for the LAST time
May 2006- He wants to work on the marriage!!
Nov 2006-- Moved home
May 2008- Things still getting better