Thanks, Burg. I am trying to focus on behavior, in the short time. More on mine than on hers, actually. I know I need to lead. If I persist in a loving, compassionate way, and she actually follows my lead, we might have something to work on. If she can't follow my lead, I need to be ready to move on.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau