You sound good. I know a DB success story- my sister. Her and her H never lived apart, but they got very close to seperating. They went to one of the seminars. My sister had a very hard time with the concepts of DBIng, but her husband was all over it. He has some great insight and I will share some of what he shared with me. He says if D is not what you want then fight for your marriage. If you don't want to sell the house right now you don't have to. You can tell your H calmly and without emotion that this is not what you want. You wanted your marriage to work and you wanted to raise your children with both parents around. You need some time to process this. You need some time to deal with the fact that your marriage is ending and you need some time to prepare your children. Let him know that you will keep in mind what he has presented. GO DARK. GO VERY DARK. Employ the last resort technique. Go dark not with the intention of getting him back, but rather with the intention of protecting yourself and getting past this chaos and turmoil. Stick to the visitation schedule and by all means don't call H for anythinig other than the children. For me talking to H is too hard. If I need to communicate anything I text. I keep it about S. I can't see H. Seeing him just makes me distraught with emotion. When H drops son off as soon as I hear the key in the door or I hear the bell ringing I go flying up the stairs into the bathroom. I pretend that I am in the shower. If you are a praying person then stop praying for H to come and start praying for the strength to deal with whatever may come. See how going dark works. Try this and take some time to think about how you might proceed. Looks like you really don't have to make any decisions until September. Don't make it hard for H, but don't make it easy. He made it about him, now turn it around and make it about you. Let him wait while you figure it out.
