And let me say I applauded your thoughts on "unsolicited rescuing as paternalism".
Thanks. I wish I understood this a long time ago. I have been inclined to jump in and fix things right away. I have had to develop some extra patience to watch others struggle to figure out how to do things. When you rescue, you short circuit other people's growth processes. You also send them the message that you don't think their capable of learning how to do things themselves. You end up hurting more than helping. I mostly learned this from dealing with my kids.
Rescuing my kids is a pretty understandable, if a little misguided, impulse. Doing it with my wife is downright insidious. That's why I labeled it paternalistic. I'm not her daddy.
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau
