Lisa just gave you such good advice, I don't really have anything to add, except yes yes, keep it light & don't push it into a big OR talk. Also sometimes I think when we are in this kind of situation everything seems very black and white and it is hard to create different options for ourselves which can take the pressure off. I'm not sure if this would be appropriate under the circumstances, but maybe with H you could brainstorm all the different things you could do with the house, just come up with as many possible solutions together without any attachment to any of them.
Oh! For example. Could you rent out *part* of your house on a month-to-month basis to take off the financial pressure, without pressuring yourself to move? So you do not have to solve the financial problem and the where-do-I-live-problem at the and the what-is-going-on-with-my-R-with-my-h problem all at the same time? Like rent out the basement, or one room? Maybe to a professional lady who worked all the time and basically would only sleep there and take showers? Or do any of your girlfriends want to be your roommate?
I think it will help a lot to try to seperate these problems out from each other.... the less interconnected they are the easier they will be to solve.
The house is a big symbol of your marriage, but it isn't your marriage. Maybe you can think about letting go of your house as letting go of the stuff in your marriage you DON'T want anymore so you can make new room in your life for a house that you DO want and a marriage that you DO want with your H!
Personally, I find moving extremely emotional and traumatizing under the best of circumstances... so I know it's really stressful even to have to be thinking about this!!
Or do any of your girlfriends want to be your roommate? 