Engagement

[Burgbud]

SM, I think you're in good shape. You've been entirely honest with her. You can't possibly know if she believes you this time. You've told her...that's all you can do. Who knows what it takes in a particular sitch? Maybe you'll have to actually file before she takes you seriously. Maybe you'll have to move out. Maybe you'll have to get a divorce. Maybe she simply doesn't have it in her to change. I think this board often makes everybody nuts by trying to figure out *the other person*. All you have available to know is yourself. Be radically honest. Be direct. Respect her as Other and respect your own individuality and let the chips fall. Near as I can tell, that's what you've done.

Sniffing around to figure out what she thinks of you or your sitch at any given time is not going to be effective. You've told her. She's replied. Her next step will either happen or it won't. Your next step after that will either happen or it won't. Actions will tell the tale.