My W always knew that I didn't tolerate being lied to. She has know this fact for over 17 years. My DD knows this too, and has always told me the truth, because I will never get angry at her if she is honest, regardless of what she has done. That is why she tells her M and D everything, knowing that it won't be as serious by being honest.
My W knows that the lies really do effect me emotionally, and I do get very angry (as it shows me no respect when I am lied to). Every truth that she has told me about OM and things she has done, have hurt me, but I respected her more for just be honest, and I have accepted it.
And u r right....... I could get over OM and rebuild, but I cannot overcome the dishonesty. People find it hard to change this character flaw, once a liar always a liar, and I don't want to live life not trusting my partner. And I can never trust her again.
Funny thing happened last night. She got home with DD and asked me if I wanted a coffee, I said yes, thanks. She sat upstairs for a couple of hours, before retiring to bed, and yes, no coffee.
My life with her is crystal clear now, and the fog has lifted for me. I look back at my life now, and remember all the considerate things I did for her, and can't recall too many things she did for me. She just assumed that I would make the coffee's and walk upstairs and serve it to her, like the considerate idiot I was when we were married. Just a small token of what she was all about for over 17 years
Chocolateeyes, I too have seen the light Thanks buddy. Andyv
