I think you have to stick to your position. If it were me I would have a really hard time not jumping in to "fix it", but I'm sure I'd only make it worse.
Well, I did a few things for her that hopefully will help, but won't put me in a position where I just hand it all to her on a plate.
1) I called a couple of therapists today - Waiting on call backs, since they had to check insurance coverage, but hopefully I can get her an appt in the next week or so.
2) I talked to a friend of mine who is a partner in a local law firm - I'll probably arrange for W to meet with an associate over there to figure out what she needs to do. She can probably get the initial consult for free or cheap.
I told W what I had done today, and she seemed to appreciate it - She freaked out at first about me calling the lawyer, since she said she couldn't afford it, but she seemed okay after I told her we could do it cheaply.
W didn't eat lunch today, so we went out to dinner together with D tonight. She shoveled down almost a whole pizza, plus pie & ice cream for desert. She looked like she was ready just to collapse on the floor in exhaustion. I felt so bad for her tonight - She is completely worn down.
