Red,
When H was gone the last time, how were things? Did you feel disconnected then? If not, can you identify the things you were doing that kept you feeling connected? Try to tihnk of the times and phone conversations that were good and figure out what made them good. And what is different now.

If you can identify something on your end to change the dynamic of your conversations, maybe that will turn them more positive.

In the meantime, you are a busy girl... so you dont' seem to need help in that arena. Aud had excellent suggestions... ALL things I did when H and I were separated and things I still do when I need "me" time.

I find that having a massage, although expensive, is often just waht the doctor ordered. I just veg for an hour and gather myself. Maybe you can treat yourself to one.

And one last thought... winter is kind of depressing as it is. I find myself falling into a funk for no obvious reason. So, some of what you're feeling may be a lack of sunshine and nice weather.

Chin up. This too shall pass.


Married 9 years
Kids 5 and 6
Bomb 2006
H back and forth for a year
M now back on track