GREAT post Lil! I had some similar thoughts today but you said it better than I would have.
LS, definitely try to be as honest as possible. I find that is better in the long run than trying to spare my H's feelings. I'm a people pleaser too and I've had to learn that if I'm not honest I'm not being true to myself.
Also, I agree that you should consider trying another therapist. I was very lucky to find one that I REALLY like, on recommendation from a friend. My C has NEVER even talked about meeting my H. In fact, when I told her that cac and I had discussed joint counseling she gave me some names of people we could see together, and said that she'd continue to see me alone if I wanted. That made a lot of sense to me. And I do feel like she is 100% on my side. My friend couldn't say enough good things about her and I too have been very happy seeing her.
