So I met with my C this afternoon. She thought things sounded positive all in all. But we did come up with a strategy for tonight. If H does decide to go out after bowling, I am planning to text him that if he goes out, he needs to make arrangements for spending the night, b/c I won't be letting him back in. She said that things seem to work best when I set clear boundaries and consequences. So if we agreed Saturday night that he would not go out tonight after bowling, I need to follow through.
I had a missed call from H @ 4:30. I returned the call at 5:30 but hung up after a few rings. Didn't want to deal with voicemail since I didn't need anything and was returning his call. He called back at 6:05 but I guess I didn't hear it (I saw it on my cell) then he called back at 6:10. I answered, he asked why I had called. I said b/c he had called. He said he was calling to see if I felt better. (I had the flu/puke thing all day and night yesterday). I said I was better, he said he had an upset stomach today out the other end (sorry if TMI). I made some joking comment about how he should avoid the beer if his stomach was upset. He said yeah he knew that.
I told him I needed to get off the phone b/c we had pulled in the driveway (we were on our way home at the time), but that S asked if he would see Dad tonight. I said, I figured you won't be home until 10 so S should be asleep by then and can see you tomorrow. H said, Yeah, that's probably right. Then we said our goodbyes. I wasn't trying to hit him over the head with it but I figured that was an opportunity for him to mention going out after if he wanted to. Bowling winds down around 9:30 so he should be home by 10. We shall see what happens. My counselor said to draw the line at 10:30 b/c anything later would be him not respecting the deal to come home after without going out w/his buddies. I will check in tomorrow if things go well or later tonight if they don't.....
