Please, please, please, for his sake and yours...gather up all of your strength, sit him down and calmly say something like this:

"Here were the reasons we split up last time. Here is how it was when you came back home. Now here is how it is today. I cannot take it one minute longer. This, this and this need to change RIGHT NOW or I will leave you forever. This time there will be no coming back."

I wish my W would have said she would leave me if things didn't change. I had no clue she was as unhappy as she was, and if she would have said that, it would have stopped me in my tracks.

Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!