PF - point noted. I will at least bring it up again, even though today I am tired and not remotely interested. A hj seems more palatable than a bj for some reason, but I probably won't want to be touched. Which he will probably resent and misunderstand.
Lightseeker... you say that he would "misunderstand"... but isnt the real problem that he does understand?
the problem, from his perspective, is that you dont want to be touched by him, or touch him intimately.
Sounds like that is perfectly clear to him... and that, all by itself, is enough to kill any kind of will for him to initiate, unless his testosterone level has built up so high that it overrides his compassion for you.
Last edited by Dom R; 01/29/0811:57 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
