It's possible she doesn't understand yet that we are on the brink. Or she doesn't care. Or she's confused by my behavior. I don't act like I want to leave. I act like I love her, which I do. I guess it's hard for her to reconcile the seemingly contradictory ideas that I can both love her and leave her. I'm just not capable of following the "ILYBINILWY" script, or the adultery script, or the MLC script.
Well, what script are you following? I'm serious. I don't blame your W for feeling confused. You have not had sex in 10 years yet now you mean business? I would place big money on the fact that she doesn't believe you are serious. And until she does, I doubt you will see much change. You can't have it both ways. There is no "nice" way to do this. You just have to get brutally honest. If you "don't act like you want to leave", are you being honest with yourself? or her?
