respond or stay still?

[ACJ]

This is just the icing on the cake.. for she is playing the role of his wife and we are not even close to being D yet.

I know all about that. My H and I are nowhere near D yet either BUT he has been engaged for nearly 2yrs to OW and they live together as man and wife.

Your recent posts come across as VERY bitter. This is understandable but for YOU I think you have to let it go if you can. 'A New Tommorrow' spoke once of when she let go of her anger is when her H started to come back around.

Yes you do need to detach but you need to do it for you NOT to make him feel the same pain as you do when he doesn't contact you. It will not happen in this way. Scenarios that we play out in our minds are just that they are not reality.

Take some time out for yourself. It took me so long to understand the value of this. I wish I could've grapsed that principle earlier. I'm not saying I am 100% happy with my life but I am learning to make it a more positive one than previously.

The OW is not really the issue. We make them the issue b/c we are in so much pain. Do not give her a second thought, she is not worth wasting your breath on. Focus instead on building your R with your daughter. That will bring you much more joy.