mrscac - In that last few months I've read a couple of books that pointed out that I was entitled to a good sex life. That I should enjoy it. Your situation gives me some hope.
I've tried personal counseling, twice, and both times they insisted they had to talk to my H. I'm done with counseling. It has not helped us. It is more helpful for me to be in a community like this and hear from people like you! He has signed up for the anger management. Maybe that will help. I'm glad he's willing to go. I just hope he listens.
I will read the HD posts too. I want to be that way. I want to lose inhibitions and resentments.
We can still laugh together - sometimes. I can watch him with my DD and feel love and admiration about how wonderful he can be with her.
He has said some horrible things to me. Early in the marriage and the pregnancy, he was calling old girlfriends. He never saw them, but it was like he needed the lifeline. I don't think he does that now. I know there isn't anyone else. There isn't time.
I think that even people that haven't dealt with the stress and abuse issues that I've dealt with experience LD and aversions form time to time. I want to believe there is a way through this. And that is why I'm seeking light at the end of the tunnel.
