We have a child too. My breaking point came when my H's bad behavior was directed at the child because he was mad at me. Financially, I lose more than he does if we D. The longer I wait the more I lose. I decided trying to keep our family intact was more important to me than the money - as long as I saw him making some efforts. He has signed up for anger management, and we are working on compromises. I don't know if there is a middle ground that will make us both happy, but I hope so. I hope I can get past my reservations and at least want sex if not desire it.
You can't control another person, but you can set boundaries and try and make yourself heard. If your W wants to listen, you'll know it.
